I sent off a message to an online friend a little while ago, just to catch up with him as I enjoyed talking to him. I told him exactly that, I enjoy the little chats we have now and then. What he wrote back was more than I thought I would get.
"The distance is great and I take what conversation I can. You may not
realize this (and I have most likely never said) but I do take
inspiration from you. Yes....I'm not gay but I still apply the "pup"
principals. You and [another fellow pup] have helped me a lot by just your words.
Anywho.....Do have a great day
-[Friend]"
I was expecting fun yet idle chat and here I get one of the greatest compliments I have ever gotten. Thank you dear friend. We may have not met in the real world, but your graciousness has reached me as much as it seems I have you.
Wednesday, 30 January 2013
Tuesday, 29 January 2013
More Metal In My Juuuuunk!
Not a fancy title name, I know. But it is true. I am fairly happy about it. I had my Prince Albert gauged up to 10 and got a lorum piercing. I have always wanted one and now I am glad I did.
To be honest, I went and ha it done as a pick-me-up. I was really depressed and decided to get my PA stretched. The combination of getting a "new" piercing and and endorphin rush I knew would pull me out of the rut I was in so I could try to move forward. While talking to the piercer, who happens to be a friend, she states that she thinks she has decides she wants to become a genital piercing specialist. However, lots of the piercings are pretty intense and she needs practise but not many people get a lot of the piercings. She said she needed a masochist or something. I instantly put up up hand and we both laughed.
It was exactly what I needed and though I still feel stressed, I am no longer depressed, and I have more awesome junk in my... Well... Junk.
To be honest, I went and ha it done as a pick-me-up. I was really depressed and decided to get my PA stretched. The combination of getting a "new" piercing and and endorphin rush I knew would pull me out of the rut I was in so I could try to move forward. While talking to the piercer, who happens to be a friend, she states that she thinks she has decides she wants to become a genital piercing specialist. However, lots of the piercings are pretty intense and she needs practise but not many people get a lot of the piercings. She said she needed a masochist or something. I instantly put up up hand and we both laughed.
It was exactly what I needed and though I still feel stressed, I am no longer depressed, and I have more awesome junk in my... Well... Junk.
Sunday, 27 January 2013
Boy Rene's Musings
A dear friend of mine, Boy Rene, has a blog of his own and he posted a little, I will say rant, that I think has some truth to it. With his permission, I have cross posted it here. You can find his blog at lthrboyblog.
"Collars: Your Mileage May Vary
I recently came accross an interesting blog entry. The blog post was about collars and their use.
One of the first points that the blogger says is that a collar should NEVER be used as a temporary device. From the blog: IT is NOT given after an hour trick or a weekend tryst.
The blogger then also goes into explaining about the idea of haveing three tiers of collars: Collar of Consideration, Collar of Training, and Permanent Collar. I'm not going to go into detail about this tripple-collar format, because personally, I don't get it. It's not for me. If I'm going to be collared by someone, then it generally means the same thing: For the duration that the collar is around my neck, it symbolizes protection (by the top), service (by the bottom), loyalty (from both), and a few other things. I just feel that going on into giving formal names for the 15 levels of collar you may have for your boys feels like an overly complicated and romanticized version of what I honestly feel doesn't need to be complicated, or made more then what I feel it really is: something symbolizing your relationship and attachment to the person who collared you.
But after reading the article, the tripple-collar thing isn't what really bugs me about this blog entry. What bothers be is this statement: IT is NOT given after an hour trick or a weekend tryst.
It's often said in a number of Leather circles and discussions that your Leather sexuality, like any sexuality, is a personal thing. Someone telling me that I'm not a real boy or I'm not a real Leatherman because I don't meet some checklist of protocols and standards that work in their world, is similar to telling me that I can't be gay because I don't wear the latest brands, do drag, go shopping every weekend, have a lisp, or any of the other stereotypes out there. I don't need to meet your requirements of what makes a boy or a Leatherman. All that matter is me being held accountable to myself, and to my Sir. Anything outside of that is irrelevant.
So with so many people vehemently agreeing that Leather sexuality is a very personal thing, and that painting everyone in the "community" with the same broad paintbrush is a waste of time... shouldn't the same be applied to collars and their use? I was reading a number of replies that were in total agreement with this post, and I've spoken to many others who I'm sure share the same view. But I also know many others (who, for the reccord, would deffinitaly be considered Old Guard for those of you reading this who actually gives two shits about the use of that term), who would laugh in the face of the writter of that blog. Many people growing up in Leather had collars used on them, or placed collars on other boys, almost entirely for the purpose of a temporary scene. When they took on a full-time or regular boy, there was no need to have a beefy chunk of metal around their neck reminding them of that fact. It just was. Many times the Sir might give the boy some token to carry on them or wear, but a chain or leather collar with a lock wasn't really the norm.
To my understanding, the more "formalized" use of collars wasn't really a commonplace thing until quite recently. I've also heard arguments that this adaptation of the use of collars originated more from heterosexual kink and Leather, as opposed to the gay Leather culture. Personally, I don't know, I wasn't around then. But I do see it as realistic that collars were less of a ritualistic, formal attire, and more of a play-based piece of gear.
To be fair, I haven't mentioned what my own personal take on collar use for myself, and I won't. That's not why I'm writting this blog post. What I'd like to impart you with, is just to be careful when talking about sexuality, even Leather sexuality, in broad terms. What works for you may not, and almost certainly WILL not, work for everyone around you. Learn the power of owning your statements and opinions. Instead of saying "Leather is (blah blah blah...)", try saying "In my opinion, Leather is..." or "For me...".
Becoming legalistic with your sexuality, especially when it's a sexuality that I'm pretty sure originated from sexual outlaws, is a dangerous thing, and personally, I find it laughable.
Leather is different for everyone. Many people acknowledge that... but could we please start acting like it?"
"Collars: Your Mileage May Vary
One of the first points that the blogger says is that a collar should NEVER be used as a temporary device. From the blog: IT is NOT given after an hour trick or a weekend tryst.
The blogger then also goes into explaining about the idea of haveing three tiers of collars: Collar of Consideration, Collar of Training, and Permanent Collar. I'm not going to go into detail about this tripple-collar format, because personally, I don't get it. It's not for me. If I'm going to be collared by someone, then it generally means the same thing: For the duration that the collar is around my neck, it symbolizes protection (by the top), service (by the bottom), loyalty (from both), and a few other things. I just feel that going on into giving formal names for the 15 levels of collar you may have for your boys feels like an overly complicated and romanticized version of what I honestly feel doesn't need to be complicated, or made more then what I feel it really is: something symbolizing your relationship and attachment to the person who collared you.
But after reading the article, the tripple-collar thing isn't what really bugs me about this blog entry. What bothers be is this statement: IT is NOT given after an hour trick or a weekend tryst.
It's often said in a number of Leather circles and discussions that your Leather sexuality, like any sexuality, is a personal thing. Someone telling me that I'm not a real boy or I'm not a real Leatherman because I don't meet some checklist of protocols and standards that work in their world, is similar to telling me that I can't be gay because I don't wear the latest brands, do drag, go shopping every weekend, have a lisp, or any of the other stereotypes out there. I don't need to meet your requirements of what makes a boy or a Leatherman. All that matter is me being held accountable to myself, and to my Sir. Anything outside of that is irrelevant.
So with so many people vehemently agreeing that Leather sexuality is a very personal thing, and that painting everyone in the "community" with the same broad paintbrush is a waste of time... shouldn't the same be applied to collars and their use? I was reading a number of replies that were in total agreement with this post, and I've spoken to many others who I'm sure share the same view. But I also know many others (who, for the reccord, would deffinitaly be considered Old Guard for those of you reading this who actually gives two shits about the use of that term), who would laugh in the face of the writter of that blog. Many people growing up in Leather had collars used on them, or placed collars on other boys, almost entirely for the purpose of a temporary scene. When they took on a full-time or regular boy, there was no need to have a beefy chunk of metal around their neck reminding them of that fact. It just was. Many times the Sir might give the boy some token to carry on them or wear, but a chain or leather collar with a lock wasn't really the norm.
To my understanding, the more "formalized" use of collars wasn't really a commonplace thing until quite recently. I've also heard arguments that this adaptation of the use of collars originated more from heterosexual kink and Leather, as opposed to the gay Leather culture. Personally, I don't know, I wasn't around then. But I do see it as realistic that collars were less of a ritualistic, formal attire, and more of a play-based piece of gear.
To be fair, I haven't mentioned what my own personal take on collar use for myself, and I won't. That's not why I'm writting this blog post. What I'd like to impart you with, is just to be careful when talking about sexuality, even Leather sexuality, in broad terms. What works for you may not, and almost certainly WILL not, work for everyone around you. Learn the power of owning your statements and opinions. Instead of saying "Leather is (blah blah blah...)", try saying "In my opinion, Leather is..." or "For me...".
Becoming legalistic with your sexuality, especially when it's a sexuality that I'm pretty sure originated from sexual outlaws, is a dangerous thing, and personally, I find it laughable.
Leather is different for everyone. Many people acknowledge that... but could we please start acting like it?"
Wednesday, 23 January 2013
Happy I Have A Handler!
Well, It literally dawned on my about 3 seconds before writing this post that I forgot to blog about something VERY important. After a rough morning, but a great day with my family, My boyfriend and his Sir, we came back home to our own stockings. Roscoe and I opened them. A squeaky toy and a neat bone shaped mat for dog bowls. Then, I see an extra present as it is handed to me by Johnny. I take off the firdt piece of tissue paper, then stick my hand in and grab a bunch. A lock suddenly falls into my lap, I look at the bunch of tissue paper in my hand, and see a gleaming silver chain hanging from it. I look at it, look at Johnny who has a nervous but gleaming smile, and look back at the collar only to have my own nervous but gleaming smile. I was just given a collar for Christmas! It was by far one of the best Christmas' I have had yet. I gladly accepted and knelt down for Johnny to lock the collar on. I was perpetually wagging the entire night.
The collar I was given was a temporary one I was told, until we can find a better one. I remember him that My best friend who is starting up a chain mail business made me a collar I like very much, so i showed it to him. He liked it and we put that one on.
The collar I was given was a temporary one I was told, until we can find a better one. I remember him that My best friend who is starting up a chain mail business made me a collar I like very much, so i showed it to him. He liked it and we put that one on.
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| The red and black chain mail collar made for me by me best friend, held around my neck by Sir Johnny's lock. |
Monday, 24 December 2012
A Very Puppy Christmas 2012
Sorry for such the delay in posts. Christmas came up on us fast.
The Calgary Kinky Kennel Club held it's second annual "A Very Puppy Christmas" party. It went very very well! I would personally like to thank Dan and Kevin for letting us use their loving home to host the party in. I think most of the success of the party goes to them! We couldn't of done it without you two! Another big thank to all who came! It would be nothing in absence of you! Pup Kota was a good sport when he was nominated for the "puppy present" adventure. He made a good present. :)
Here is to a great party and even greater friends and company. Merry Pupmas!
The Calgary Kinky Kennel Club held it's second annual "A Very Puppy Christmas" party. It went very very well! I would personally like to thank Dan and Kevin for letting us use their loving home to host the party in. I think most of the success of the party goes to them! We couldn't of done it without you two! Another big thank to all who came! It would be nothing in absence of you! Pup Kota was a good sport when he was nominated for the "puppy present" adventure. He made a good present. :)
Here is to a great party and even greater friends and company. Merry Pupmas!
Monday, 26 November 2012
With Warm Regards
I received a message yesterday from a person who was at the boot workshop I presented. I asked permission if I could post the message on here, as it touched me very much. So, here it is.
"Hi Berith,
i hope it is ok that i message you here even though you were so kind yesterday to give me your email address (which i no doubt will use in the future!).
i just wanted to say again how much i enjoyed your workshop yesterday. i felt incredibly honoured and privileged to sit with you and Your Sir while you finished His boots. i have to admit that i never have really gotten the whole "bootblacking" concept. Sir has tried to explain it to me, the depth, the connection, the feeling of it all ... but it escaped me ... that is, until yesterday. Dont get me wrong, i have done Sir's boots and i have enjoyed it to a certain extent, but i knew there was "something" missing. After watching how your Sir watched You, quietly sitting, soft smile, the light in His eyes ... gave me goosebumps. Although you were teaching and focused on many things at once, i was absolutley bowled over by the connectiong between the two of You as you did His boots. And i'm very happy to say that i think got "it" ... i dont want to be so bold to say i completely understand, as that will be my journey going forward, but You both opened a door to me that i am very excited about.
i am very excited to venture forth and start obtaining the items that will grow within my own bootblacking kit (with your guidance i hope!). i have a feeling your handout will be referred to often ... :)
Again, thank you so much for your time, your hard work, the sharing of your energy, and for opening my eyes to such possibilies. i do hope that we can stay in touch ...
Warm regards, vixengrl"
"Hi Berith,
i hope it is ok that i message you here even though you were so kind yesterday to give me your email address (which i no doubt will use in the future!).
i just wanted to say again how much i enjoyed your workshop yesterday. i felt incredibly honoured and privileged to sit with you and Your Sir while you finished His boots. i have to admit that i never have really gotten the whole "bootblacking" concept. Sir has tried to explain it to me, the depth, the connection, the feeling of it all ... but it escaped me ... that is, until yesterday. Dont get me wrong, i have done Sir's boots and i have enjoyed it to a certain extent, but i knew there was "something" missing. After watching how your Sir watched You, quietly sitting, soft smile, the light in His eyes ... gave me goosebumps. Although you were teaching and focused on many things at once, i was absolutley bowled over by the connectiong between the two of You as you did His boots. And i'm very happy to say that i think got "it" ... i dont want to be so bold to say i completely understand, as that will be my journey going forward, but You both opened a door to me that i am very excited about.
i am very excited to venture forth and start obtaining the items that will grow within my own bootblacking kit (with your guidance i hope!). i have a feeling your handout will be referred to often ... :)
Again, thank you so much for your time, your hard work, the sharing of your energy, and for opening my eyes to such possibilies. i do hope that we can stay in touch ...
Warm regards, vixengrl"
Saturday, 24 November 2012
Boots: Foundation of a Bond
Today, I gave a workshop with the above title. It went very well and I had lots of positive feed back from people who found it interesting and people who seemed very intrigued and eager to learn. It was a pleasure to teach, learn and make new friends.
From what is in a kit, to history and basic technique and even personal flare. Some people got down and dirty with me getting their hands covered in Huberd's and having a grand time. I learned a few things and came a little more out of my shell. It was wonderful. Thank you all for making the experience possible and making it a great one. I will save some information I shared for another post, but I will leave you with one quote I hold dear, that I heard from a friend.
From what is in a kit, to history and basic technique and even personal flare. Some people got down and dirty with me getting their hands covered in Huberd's and having a grand time. I learned a few things and came a little more out of my shell. It was wonderful. Thank you all for making the experience possible and making it a great one. I will save some information I shared for another post, but I will leave you with one quote I hold dear, that I heard from a friend.
"Boots tell a story, and it is our turn to get them ready for the next chapter."
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